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Are you able to lie, even though you have Aspergers?

12.06.2025 07:40

Are you able to lie, even though you have Aspergers?

And like all humans, including the vast majority of autists, I do a lot of lying.

Nuda Veritas by Gustav Klimt. Public domain.

When I lie, I’m not very convincing. No one ever looked at my masking and thought, “Now, that’s a normal person! Why, I’d like to have a drink with that woman. She seems just like me.” Similarly, when I speak untruths, I doubt most believe me.

Is it legal for an employer to ask why you are taking time off from work?

Because these settings don’t produce dissonance, I can lie fairly convincingly in these settings. It’s my conscience and my commitment to my own ideals that holds me back.

Less than I used to, sure. When I considered it an inviolable obligation to mask, I lied constantly. I didn’t often lie with my words, but I implied facts that were untrue with every breath and movement. I was too terrified of the abuse that might result if I didn’t. Telling the truth was too dangerous.

Cognitive dissonance is incredibly uncomfortable for me. If I don’t feel like I’m doing the right thing, it shows. The only times I can lie convincingly, verbally or physically, is when it feels morally and ethically correct to lie. While performing in a play, for example. Or while comforting people with dementia.

At what point does trespassing become self defense? What are the necessary conditions for this line to be crossed from trespassing to self defense?

Yes.